The paperwork is significant, but the funeral director handles this. Necessary information for the death certificate is obtained, and then this is filed with the proper legal authorities. Obituary notices are prepared and disseminated. A burial permit is obtained. Claim forms are prepared for social security, veterans and union benefits, along with any insurance policies. So much of this is detailed and legal in nature, so the funeral director's involvement is usually appreciated by the grieving family.

This is usually thought of as a service following cremation (although not limited to only cremation), where the body is not available for viewing. Memorial Services can take many forms — from mirroring a more traditional funeral service to being more creative and focusing on celebrating life. These can be held at the funeral home, at a church, or elsewhere.

Assuming you have selected a funeral home, all you need to do is call the funeral home. They will handle things from there. If necessary, a time will be established for the arrangement interview (if the service had been “prearranged” this might not be necessary).

You should still call your funeral home of choice at home and let them coordinate handling the details

More services are “personalized” today; families are using less formal clothing; the music played is less traditional; etc. Beyond these specifics, there are more conglomerates that own numerous funeral homes and cemeteries, for example. “Casket stores” have opened, particularly in metropolitan areas. You can even order a casket from the internet. Some people actually make their own caskets! What we're hearing is that many of these trends equate to less personalized service which gets away from the very intent of funeral service.

Yes, depending on location, religious preference, etc. Medical schools have an on-going need of bodies for teaching and research. After medical study, the body is usually cremated. Even without cremation, however, immediate burial is permissible. Some states allow the family to attend to the deceased person, although Indiana law requires the involvement of a licensed funeral director. Finally, there are Memorial Societies to assist with arrangements. These are membership organizations and charge fees; however, they can assist families in negotiating prices and planning arrangements.

It is never easy to accept death. After hearing that a loved one has passed away, we often feel angry, confused or emotionally numb. The funeral — and the support of family and friends — helps to start the healing process, of which grief is apart. This is why we say that funerals are for the living — it affords an opportunity to say good-bye. Most professionals agree that this is important and that unresolved grief can have an enormous effect on people, even years down the road.

As to the funeral director, he or she works with the family in “arranging” the service; ensures that all legal requirements are met; handles the necessary paperwork; coordinates with the health department and other governmental agencies; contacts the minister and others involved with the service including pallbearers; arranges for transportation, whether an escort, family car et al; notifies and deals with the cemetery, crematory, etc.; pays various bills on behalf of the family (see cash advances mentioned previously). . . the list goes on and on. Perhaps most importantly, the funeral director shepherds the family through this dificult time and provides needed support and counsel, including referral to outside professionals if needed.